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Couples Sex Toys NZ 2026: His and Hers Picks, NZ$19–140
Shop all couples toys (121 in the range, from NZ$17.50), or compare the 12 his and hers picks below.
Quick picks: 12 couples sex toys compared
Picks chosen from the 1sttoy couples range on published specs and price; we have not hands-on tested every product.
| Pick | Best for | Key specs (published) | Price (NZ$) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1. Couples Vibrator – U-Shaped | Budget couples vibrator worn during sex | Silicone; IPX7; built-in rechargeable battery | NZ$35 |
| 2. Finger Vibrator – Rose Stimulator | Any body, any pairing (hand-worn) | 10 cm finger sleeve; 9 modes; IPX7 | NZ$66 |
| 3. Butterfly Vibrator – App Remote | App play and long-distance couples | 10.2 × 6.1 cm; strap to 57.2 cm; 9 modes; magnetic USB | NZ$55 |
| 4. Wearable Panty Vibrator – Magnetic Clip | Date nights with a handheld remote | External; 9 patterns, dual motors; wireless remote | NZ$40 |
| 5. Wearable Thrusting Vibrator – App and Remote | Hands-free thrusting | Insertable 12.5 cm, 3.5 cm across; 9 + 9 modes; up to 55 dB (supplier figure) | NZ$59 |
| 6. Vibrating Cock Ring – Adjustable Strap | First vibrating ring, no sizing guesswork | Adjustable strap; 8.7 × 5.0 cm; 7 modes; IPX7 | NZ$35 |
| 7. Vibrating Cock Ring – Tongue Arm | Ring your partner controls | Ring 3.5 cm inner; 11.4 cm arm; 10 modes; IPX7; remote | NZ$50 |
| 8. Cock Ring Set – Silicone | Finding your ring size, no batteries | 6 rings 2.3–4 cm inner diameter plus dual-loop ring | NZ$19 |
| 9. Prostate Massager – Thrusting | Prostate play in any pairing | Beads 2.5 / 3.6 / 3.8 cm; 9 + 9 modes; IPX6; under 40 dB (supplier figure) | NZ$65 |
| 10. Strap-On Dildo Set – Double-Sided | First strap-on, with room to size up | 3 silicone dildos, 10–17.5 cm; PU leather harness | NZ$50 |
| 11. Strapless Strap-On Vibrator – Remote | Partners who want no harness | Liquid silicone; 25.3 cm, 3.8 cm shaft; 12 modes | from NZ$140 |
| 12. Bed Restraint Set – 4 Cuffs | First restraint play | 4 cuffs; under-mattress straps 426.7 cm in total | NZ$35 |
How to choose a sex toy for couples
The 1sttoy couples range holds 121 products priced NZ$17.50–200, median NZ$57.
- Who wears it, and where. Wearable vibrators (54 in the range, NZ$20–200, median NZ$61.50) sit on one partner. Vibrating rings (38 listed, NZ$25–140, median about NZ$50) sit at the base of a penis.
- Same room or different cities. Only app control reaches a partner elsewhere; 28 products name app control in their title, at NZ$40–200.
- Fit. 85 of the 121 products publish a size in cm. Plain silicone rings run 2.3–4.3 cm inner diameter, and one harness fits waists of 72–110 cm while another stops at 76.2 cm.
- Water and charging. 52 list USB or rechargeable charging, and 34 carry an IPX6 or IPX7 rating.
- Noise. 12 products publish a supplier noise figure, from under 45 dB up to 55 dB. That matters in a flat.
Water-based lube works with every toy material; our lube guide covers the alternatives.
Sex toys for husband and wife: where to start
For a first toy as a married couple, start with one shared toy, not a kit.
- Pick one toy you both feel. A U-shaped couples vibrator or an adjustable vibrating ring, both NZ$35.
- Add a water-based lube. It suits every material in this guide.
- Then swap the controls. A remote wearable (from NZ$40) lets one partner surprise the other.
Agree that either of you can pause at any time. The beginner's guide covers more first-time questions.
His and hers sex toys, and every other pairing
- His and hers (penis and vulva): a U-shaped couples vibrator, a vibrating ring with a clitoral arm, or both.
- Two partners with vulvas: a strapless strap-on, a harness set, a finger vibrator or a pair of remote wearables.
- Two partners with penises: vibrating rings, a prostate massager or a harness.
- Trans and non-binary partners: choose by body parts and comfort, not by a "for him" or "for her" tag.
Wearable couples vibrators
A U-shaped couples vibrator has one arm that sits inside the vagina and one that rests on the clitoris. It stays in place during penetrative sex, so both partners feel it.
1. Couples Vibrator – U-Shaped, Wearable, IPX7, Pink or Purple (NZ$35)
The lowest-priced couples vibrator in the range: silicone, IPX7 and rechargeable.
For phone control, the Wearable Couples Vibrator – U-Shape, App Control (NZ$45) adds an app and 9 modes. For a step up, the Couples Vibrator – U-Shaped, Liquid Silicone (NZ$77) is IPX7 rated.
2. Finger Vibrator – Rose Stimulator, Wrist Strap, 9 Modes (NZ$66)
Worn on the giver's hand with a 10 cm finger sleeve, it suits any pairing. It has 9 modes and an IPX7 rating.
Browse the full couples vibrators collection.
Remote and app-controlled toys, including long distance
- Radio remote: no phone or account needed, but range is short; the Wearable Vibrator – Remote Control (NZ$70) publishes 10 m.
- App over Bluetooth: a phone becomes the remote, within the same house.
- App over the internet: the only way to play across cities.
Our app-controlled and long-distance toys guide explains set-up and app permissions.
3. Butterfly Vibrator – App Remote, 9 Modes, Wearable (NZ$55)
An external butterfly vibrator, 10.2 × 6.1 cm, held in a panty harness that adjusts up to 57.2 cm. For long distance, confirm on the product page that its app offers internet control, not only Bluetooth.
4. Wearable Panty Vibrator – Magnetic Clip, Remote Control, Purple (NZ$40)
A clip-on external vibrator with a wireless remote and 9 patterns, held inside underwear by a magnetic clip.
5. Wearable Thrusting Vibrator – App and Remote, 9+9 Modes (NZ$59)
It thrusts and vibrates, with 9 modes of each. The insertable section is 12.5 cm long and 3.5 cm across.
See all wearable and remote vibrators.
Vibrating rings for shared vibration
A vibrating ring sits at the base of the penis, its motor resting against the partner. Choose a snug fit, use lube, and remove it after 20 to 30 minutes, or at once if anything feels numb or painful.
6. Vibrating Cock Ring – Adjustable Strap, 7 Modes, IPX7 (NZ$35)
An adjustable strap removes the guesswork on size. It has 7 modes and an IPX7 rating.
7. Vibrating Cock Ring – Tongue Arm, 10 Modes, Remote Control (NZ$50)
A 3.5 cm ring with an 11.4 cm tongue-shaped arm and 10 modes. The remote lets the other partner take control.
8. Cock Ring Set – Silicone, 6 Rings plus Dual-Loop Ring (NZ$19)
The cheapest way to learn your size: six rings from 2.3 to 4 cm inner diameter.
Compare fits in the cock rings collection, or read the cock ring beginner's guide.
Prostate play for couples
9. Prostate Massager – Thrusting, Double Cock Ring, Remote Control (NZ$65)
Thrusting beads of 2.5, 3.6 and 3.8 cm with a double ring and a remote. It is IPX6, with a supplier noise figure under 40 dB.
Use plenty of lube. The anal toys for beginners guide covers the basics, and the full range is in prostate massagers.
Strap-ons: harness sets and strapless
A strap-on lets any partner wear a dildo. A harness holds it through an O-ring; a strapless model has a short end that sits inside the wearer.
10. Strap-On Dildo Set – Double-Sided, 3 Removable Attachments (NZ$50)
Three silicone dildos let you size up: 10 × 3.5, 13.5 × 3.5 and 17.5 × 4 cm.
For a harness alone, the Strap-On Harness – Adjustable Waist 72 to 110 cm (NZ$20) takes a dildo with a flared base.
11. Strapless Strap-On Vibrator – Remote, 12 Modes, Thrusting Option (from NZ$140)
The premium pick with no straps: liquid silicone, 25.3 cm long, 3.8 cm shaft and 12 modes. The NZ$150 option adds thrusting.
Harness sets and strapless models are all in strap-ons and wearable dildos.
Bondage kits and couples sex kits
Restraint play works for every pairing. Agree a safe word first. Kits in the range run from 7 to 20 pieces, at NZ$17.50–80.
12. Bed Restraint Set – 4 Cuffs, Under-Mattress Straps (NZ$35)
Four cuffs clip to straps that run under the mattress. For a fuller kit, the Bondage Set – 7 Pieces (NZ$45) adds a collar, blindfold, gag, flogger and rope.
Keep cuffs loose enough to slide a finger under. See every set in bondage kits.
Couples gifts for Christmas
For the best chance of delivery before Christmas, order by Friday 4 December (urban) or Tuesday 1 December (rural). Delivery is tracked, 7–12 working days after dispatch; these dates are our best estimate, not a promise.
- Under NZ$30: the Cock Ring Set – Silicone (NZ$19).
- NZ$30–60: the Couples Vibrator – U-Shaped (NZ$35) or the Butterfly Vibrator – App Remote (NZ$55).
- NZ$60 and up: the liquid silicone U-shaped vibrator (NZ$77).
43 of the 121 couples toys start under NZ$50, so two gifts often pass the NZ$100 free-shipping mark. Give a couples toy in private, not at a family gathering. More ideas are in our adult Christmas gifts guide and the Christmas gifts collection.
What the other guides don't tell you
- Prices in New Zealand dollars. The NZ couples guides we checked rarely give NZ$ prices or a Christmas order-by date.
- A remote is not long distance. A radio remote works within a room; only app control over the internet reaches another city.
- Fit is measurable. Plain rings run 2.3 to 4.3 cm inner diameter; harness waists differ by more than 30 cm.
- "Waterproof" is not a rating. IPX7 covers immersion to 1 m for 30 minutes. Only 34 of 121 couples products carry IPX6 or IPX7.
- Most guides assume one kind of couple. Few mention same-sex, trans or non-binary partners.
Buying couples toys in New Zealand
1sttoy dispatches from its supplier's warehouse overseas, and tracked delivery to NZ addresses takes 7–12 working days. Shipping is NZ$10, free on orders of NZ$100 or more, and no tax is added at checkout.
Parcels arrive in plain unbranded packaging, with only your name and delivery address on the outer label. Opened intimate products cannot be returned for change of mind, but faulty items are put right and your rights under NZ consumer law apply.
Frequently asked questions
What is the best sex toy for couples to start with?
For most couples, a wearable U-shaped couples vibrator or a vibrating ring is the easiest start, because both fit into sex you already have. In the 1sttoy range they start at NZ$35 and NZ$25. A NZ$19 ring set helps you find a ring size first.
What are the best his and hers sex toys?
When one partner has a penis and the other a vulva, try a vibrating ring with a clitoral arm or a U-shaped vibrator. A remote wearable lets one partner control the other's toy. These toys suit other pairings when you choose by anatomy rather than by label.
Are couples sex toys suitable for same-sex couples?
Yes. Hand-worn vibrators, app wearables, strap-ons and bondage kits work for any pairing. Partners with vulvas often choose a strapless strap-on; partners with penises, vibrating rings. A "for her" tag describes the anatomy a toy is shaped for, not who may use it.
When should I order a couples gift for Christmas delivery in NZ?
Order by Friday 4 December for urban addresses or Tuesday 1 December for rural ones. Delivery is tracked and takes 7–12 working days after dispatch from the supplier's warehouse overseas. These dates are our best estimate. Parcels come in plain packaging, so a gift is not given away at the door.
How do you introduce a sex toy to your partner?
Raise it outside the bedroom, framed as something to try together rather than a fix. Browse side by side, let either person veto an item, and start small and low-cost. Agree that either of you can pause at any point.
